“Anyone who reads this parenting book will thank God for it. I only wish that it had been around when our children were all in the house. It covers everything I could ever want as a caring parent.”
~ Kurt Krueger, Middle School Teacher
“This is the first book I've read that puts together so many positive ways for parents to interact with their children to teach them how to be good and loving people. I really like Diane's straightforward approach. She gives suggestions parents can use immediately.”
~ Caroline Druiff, School Counselor, School Psychologist
“I find this book for parents to be a very practical and authentic guide that invites parents to help nurture and support their children as they grow from infancy into adulthood. What makes this book stand out is its realism, coherence, clarity and depth based on research and Diane's vast experience of working with parents during her distinguished career. As I reviewed the contents, I was particularly touched by the invitational style that invited the reader to reflect on their own childhood and parenting perspectives, and how to simply be an even better parent. Some of the issues such as how to deal with bullying, drugs, social media and abuse are profound in their practicalities — yet, equally, so too, are the important elements of 'Taking Care of You' and the recurrent theme of 'Us Time' — that loving and trusting relationship between parent and child that underpins and strengthens the personal living of values and sense of family and individuality that are important to us all.”
~ Peter Williams, President, Association for Living Values Education International
Section One: The Importance of Values
Two chapters offer a brief look at the effect of values and why teaching values is not as easy as it was decades ago when being a role model and sharing stories was often sufficient.
Section Two: Nurturing with Love and Wisdom
Seven chapters explore the importance of enjoying play and Us Time with children of all ages, the role of love, affection and attention, the uniqueness of each child, and practical guidelines for encouragement and building positive behaviors. Stories and examples of active listening give parents a wonderful way to help children accept and process their own emotions. Creating opportunities for children to be responsible is also addressed.
Section Three: Disciplining with Peace and Respect
Eight chapters explore values-based methods of guiding children, beginning with a discussion of “to cane or not to cane” and the dynamics of punishment. Practical steps are offered to implement peaceful effective timeouts, help children create positive alternatives, speak so children will listen, model desired behaviors, give choices, and use logical consequences to help children accept responsibility. A discussion of values is part of a four-step correction process when young people engage in wrong behavior.
Section Four: Healthy Food for the Body and Mind
Two chapters offer information on simple ways to provide a healthier diet and explore the use of humanizing versus dehumanizing video games and films.
Section Five: Taking Care of You – the Parent
Four chapters offer suggestions and research information to parents on nourishing the body, increasing happiness and nourishing the spirit, transforming negative mental habits, and mindful ways to keep love flowing with your partner and family.
Section Six: Practicalities in Everyday Life
Five chapters explore situations parents may encounter, such as when a child says “I Hate You” or is disrespectful, when there is resistance to doing homework, when there’s change and children feel insecure, and steps to begin repairing a relationship. The chapter on when siblings squabble and fight includes how to teach conflict resolution while incorporating peace, respect and love in the process.
Section Seven: Prevention and Intervention
Five chapters include suggestions and practical activities to help parents help children learn to calm down, prevent drug use, and deal with bullying and social media. A chapter on preventing sexual abuse offers suggestions to parents as well as scripted conversations to help build children’s awareness and protective social skills. The last chapter in this section is a step-by-step guide for families that have had a lot of anger in the home and wish to create more peace and harmony.
Section Eight: Building Blocks of Values
This chapter on the process of helping children explore and develop values, ties together information from previous sections while clarifying the process of how we can help each young person move toward his or her potential.
Download a story on bullying: "Simon's Hook"
In Chapter 31, “Help Children Deal with Bullying and Social Media,” Diane wrote: “A wonderful story I was just introduced to by The Joy of Reading Project is “Simon’s Hook” by Karen Gedig Burnett. Suitable for young children and beautifully illustrated, it introduces the concepts of not buying into being bullied in the same way that some fish learn to not bite a hook. Be a free fish and learn to not react, by agreeing, distracting or using humor. The Joy of Reading team kindly gave permission to post this story "Simon's Hook" so that you can download it free of charge.